On Rationality and Losing Friends


Today has been an interesting day. I’ve had friends pointing out the loss of friends for various reasons. They became vocal about their atheism. They spoke out against pseudoscience. It’s sad whenever I hear about this. Unfortunately, that’s how things end up.

You see, people get very defensive when their closely held beliefs are questioned. This is natural.

When I started speaking publicly about my atheism, I lost a lot of friends. Many of them left my life in spectacularly vile ways, too. It was definitely something to see.

At first it hurt.

Then, when I started speaking publicly against pseudoscience, I lost more friends. Many of them left in even more vile and hurtful ways.

I was a bit numbed to it by then.

When I began speaking publicly about the problems in politics, I lost far more friends. They left in the worst possible ways.

Then, I realized….they aren’t hurting me. They’re hurting themselves. Not only are they losing a friend, they’re refusing to hear any ideas that differ from their own. They can never grow.

Today, I look at my friends…and I realize that I have far more, and far better friends than I had before I decided to speak out.

That’s the best feeling possible. Keep doing what you do. Keep speaking out. Keep being a good person. Those who walk away added nothing to your life to begin with.

Contributor: Robert Sacerich

Robert is a Philosophy of Science and Bioethics student, as well as blogger and science advocate/activist. He has worked extensively within the secular community for various secular nonprofit organizations and public communication causes.

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